One of the key terms in American higher education today is seamlessness—the ability of students to move into and through the postsecondary system with a minimal amount of disruption. At the same time, the number of paths into that system are increasing, and some of the less-traveled paths are growing in popularity, especially homeschooling. The convergence of these phenomena provides tremendous opportunities for innovation and reform, but also significant potential for conflict. Nowhere is this clearer than in the area of admissions policy for applicants from non-public, non-traditional schools. As a growing number of students and their families choose alternative secondary school settings, college and university administrators—as well as policymakers and courts—are facing difficult questions about the degree to which higher education institutions are prepared to account for these students in their admissions processes.
All children need socialization, including homeschoolers. Interestingly, the definition of the word “socialize” is “to make social; especially, to fit or train for a social environment”. The difference for homeschooling families is in how we choose to provide training that for them.
It must be clear at the outset that there are no sure-fire rules of education that apply to all children at all times. Reishis Chachmah quotes a Midrash that it is easier to raise a legion of olive trees in the Galilee, where the soil and climate are not conducive to growing olive trees, than to raise one child in the Land of Israel, even though Israel is conducive to proper education, since the atmosphere itself helps to imbue one with wisdom and holiness. Children are not objects to be fashioned at will, but rather human beings who have their own free will and can reject, if they so choose, even the best education. The most a parent can hope to achieve, as Chiddushei HaRim points out regarding all learning, is to put the words of Torah on the heart of the child so that when the heart opens up, the Torah found on it will sink into the receptive heart.